Distilling my hatred for driving

For the very first time, I suddenly thought of distilling my hatred for driving in writing. Figuring out the reasons behind my hatred

Recently, I made a round-trip to my hometown. The drive there was horrendous. I left on a weekday night. It wasn’t a public holiday, nor was it the end of the working week. Yet, the drive took a lot longer than expected due to unforeseen circumstances like roadblocks and roadworks.

The drive back, however, was even worse compared to the drive there. It took even longer to reach my destination—and mind you, it still wasn’t a public holiday. It was just a regular Sunday. The first half was a terrible traffic jam, while the second half wasn’t, which didn’t make much sense. Maybe there had been an accident along the way, though I didn't see any sign of it. All I know is that nothing justified the traffic. There was no clear reason for it.

Stuck in the middle of the traffic, I started to wonder: Why do I hate driving so much? For the very first time, I wanted to distill all this hatred into writing and figure out the reasons behind it.

The Backstory of My Driving Journey

For the longest time, I have hated to drive. I only drove because there wasn’t much of a choice. It is a necessity, especially in this country. Come to think of it, why did I hate driving so much? Maybe I should rewind to when I was 18—the year I got my driving license.

I actually kind of passed the exam by luck. Of course, as a Christian, there is no such thing as luck; it was definitely all in God’s plan. However, deep down, I knew I should have failed the exam because I did so badly.

Vehicle Damage & Accidents

Through my years in university, I can recount having a few car accidents—like two or three times. One was near my family's old house, and another was near the T-junction by the Ibu Pejabat Kerajaan Polis (IPK). I think there was one more accident, but I can’t exactly remember it. Moreover, I constantly hit those solid cement curbs and occasional low rocks, which led to my lower left and right bumpers constantly being damaged…

Driving Trauma, The Cost of Commute

Strictly speaking, driving itself has barely brought any joy to me. It was a cycle of constant mistakes and trauma. The scariest incident was last year in January, when I almost got into a bad accident because a policeman abruptly blocked the road when the light was green…

Furthermore, I hate long drives as they are very draining. I always feel exhausted after a few hours of driving—my body stiffens and my butt hurts. Being stuck in a traffic jam is the worst. Driving itself feels energy-draining and time-consuming.

Bad Drivers (Ugh)

Sometimes, I get very annoyed by these types of drivers:

  • Slow drivers
  • Drivers who can’t stay in their lane properly
  • Drivers who change lanes without signaling
  • Drivers who cut in without leaving any gap
  • Road ragers
  • Entitled motorcyclists
  • ...the list goes on and on.

I never understood how someone could enjoy driving. Some describe it as a form of therapy. I, on the other hand, just want to reach my destination as fast as possible…

The Blessings

Deep down, I know this is not how God wants me to see things. Because…

  • Having a car to drive is a blessing.
  • Being able to fetch others with my car is a blessing.
  • Reaching my destination safely is a blessing.
  • Being able to save time because of having a car is a blessing.

Unfortunately, I don’t think I will stop ranting about the things I have mentioned, even though I know the blessings I have. Sounds ungrateful, huh? Some people might even say it is a blessing to be stuck in a traffic jam. To that, I will definitely say: you are crazy. Why would anyone appreciate being held up in a traffic jam? In fact, traffic jams are basically a form of modern-day torture.

In the end, I can only ponder and wonder: Will I one day stop hating driving?